May 9, 2004 was the day Martha had her devastating stroke. It doesn't seem possible that it has been that long but it sure has been. Five years since she has been able to talk, can you only imagine having 5 years of things on your mind and wanting to share them with every one and not being able to. It is very frustrating for her, she tries so hard to tell you what she wants you to know.
She has a hard time getting around as she has little use of her right leg and no use of her right arm. It is a chore just getting her dressed and ready to go any where. So she doesn't get out very much, mostly just when she has to go to the doctors.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with her mind, she is totally aware of every thing that goes on around her. She remembers bithdays, anniversaries, her Mom's date of death, and every thing that is important to her. She comprehends every thing but basically can only answer yes and no questions.
She loves information about any thing from the past, just simple things like telling her that I ran into so & so and they said to tell you hello will bring a big beaming smile to her face. I tell her every thing I know about her friends and family both good and bad, if someone passes away I let her know, as well as any good things I know about them. In other words I treat her just the same as I did before she had her stroke.
She just loves it when she gets company, phone calls, cards, letters, or any thing like that. She really doesn't hear from many people from her past, even though she can't reciprocate, she is just so happy when she hears from any one.
Through all she endures she still seems happy mosy of the time, always smiling, even after she gets frustrated when she can't make you understand what it is she wants you to know, she will just say oh well, and smile.
I jokingly tell her all the time three things that haven't chaged with her are, she is still stubborn, she still wants what she wants, and at times can be demanding, so God bless Jimmy, Jessica, and especially her Mother-in-Law Anita, who has endured a lot of her own health problems for all the care and love they give her and their patience.
I hate to ask for favors and the one time I did it didn't get very good response, when it was her and Jimmy's 25th wedding anniversary I asked if since she doesn't have a lot of pleasures would people send her a card, a phone call or any thing, thank you so much for the ones of you that did but I am going to ask again.
July 21, Martha will be fifty years old, a very special milestone in any ones life and any thing the people who knew and loved her can do to honor her on that special day will be greatly appreciated. Wow how can some one as young as me have a 50 year od daughter, LOL
Love and blessings to you all, Joe